Assalamalaikum! This is Kathryn Jones the Peaceful Parenting Coach, she’s back on track again. You might be wondering what I’m talking about. Well, those of you have read your email may have a slight clue. The first email I sent yesterday had a wrong link. The email with the correct link, I called you Felicia, and then there were a number people who I sent a really baffling email to. One core sister is that who was expecting me to email her with the time that we will going to have a free session together, and when I rang her a few times, she didn’t seem to be available that time. I went to my emails, only to discover that the email was sitting there and I hadn’t even pressed send.
So what on earth is going on? A lot, actually. I was very stressed about so many things and was also really really tired. I had a huge week with lots of patches that I couldn’t sleep. It’s the end of 2 weeks of school holidays, so I’ve been juggling work and trying just to make sure that I spend some good quality time with the kids everyday, as well as having some interesting activities with them.
And so, I was kind of at the end of my tether. Also, two other few things going on is, I have a coach for parenting and a coach for business as well -- both of whom are traveling--and so my usual support network, ones that I rely upon when I’m going off track and need to get back on track, haven’t been available either. And so I get very disconnected, very off track. And those of you who really watched my free training, that language make sense to you. Because that was we talked about happening to kids but it happens to us too, and I wanted to tell you the story so you can understand how positive and powerful this knowledge and knowing what to do in the situation is, but also how disastrous things can get when you don’t take care of yourself and take care of your emotional well being.
So I had a very difficult night with my fourteen-year-old, disappearing somewhere without telling me, not answering his phone and not coming home until really late at night. Now, I actually understand where is his defiance and everything comes from, and I had part of my off track behaviour with my disconnection which I hadn’t realize until this incident occur. There was something intuitively in me not knowing that, that was going off track and for the last few days I’m trying to build connection with him and trying to prevent that from happening. But because of my own stresses and everything else that was going on with the business, the kids and everything, I didn’t succeed because we don’t succeed disconnecting with our kids when we’re off track ourselves.
Secondly, I was trying to connect with them on my time table; and the thing with the teenagers is, you need to connect on THEIR time table. It doesn’t work on your schedule. It’s about when they're ready, you jump in, and you connect. Because I was trying to fix so many things in a not abundant stage of this over time in the world, I wasn’t connecting with him when he was available and I was trying to force connection with him when I was available, and that doesn’t work. So that resulted in this sort of defiant behaviour of his last night, which left me even more distressed and concerned where he's on his own, fourteen years old, he shouldn’t be out like that, and what to do about it.
Alhamdulillah, he is home now and Alhamdulillah I have done what I know I need to do to get myself back on track. I got myself into a calm place; and as soon as I did that, I was able to parent from a peaceful place inside -- but I made so many mistakes along the way. Not just email mistakes, I was making parenting mistakes too. I was quite snappy to the younger children and impatient with them when I was really trying to spend some time with them. With my fourteen-year-old, I finally did connect with him last night. I was so upset that it came out in my tone of voice, which resulted in more disconnection with him, more stubbornness from him; whereas had I’ve been able to be in a peaceful place in that moment, I could have turn things around much quicker.
The reason for telling you the story is, First, so you realize that even the peaceful parenting coach has her off days and has her not so good parenting days but the thing is it was one day and I understood what to do and turn that around so that today I’m actually on track. I am at a peaceful place, I am very calm and I know exactly what I need to do. All the things that were stressing me out yesterday, I’ve been able to make clear decision about today. And I know what I need to do with my son.
You know, I made a lot of dua to Allah, and in some ways, what happened last night was very clear to me. There are so many things that I was thinking about with regards to him and decisions I wanted to make with regards to him was spot on, on the right track that I need to make some changes about where he is going to school and some other things that is going on.
So Alhamdulillah! I got back on track, how did I do that? I got reconnected. I knew what I needed to do, I needed to connect to the right people, I needed to connect with Allah. I got up and I did tahajjud and I spent alone time telling Allah SWT all my dramas, praying, reading the Koran and getting myself centered again, connecting with the right people so I get my human connection again. Releasing all that tension that was inside me that was making my thinking go off. Remember in the training when we’re off track emotionally, we have trouble making good decisions, we have trouble in our judgement, impulse control, short term memory, getting organized and planning all sorts of things. What happened yesterday, all the things I’ve just described to you are the perfect example of a brain that’s disconnected and not thinking well.
So Alhamdulillah, everything’s fine today. It’s another day, I know what to do and I will continue inshaAllah to parent from my peaceful place inside I’ve just have some awesome afternoon with my younger children, out of the community event and schools starts again tomorrow so where about to do the haul prepare ourselves ready for school tomorrow. Everybody is very happy, on track and calm again, Alhamdulillah.
So please if you want to learn more about this, go to the link peacefulparentingsecrets.com and see the free training. Make sure that if you really want to learn how to do what I am doing, then you join up for one of my training programs so that I can teach you and mentor you through this. Because that’s the most life changing family transforming stuff out there. It’s not like any other parenting program and the only way you’re going to get a feel for that is to try it for yourself. InshaAllah!
So this is Kathryn Jones, the peaceful parenting coach, who had a very off track day yesterday is here to tell you that... Yup! It happens to us all, even the best of us and we can turn it around and I’d love to show you how. InshaAllah!
The link will be with this video, otherwise its peacefulparentingsecrets.com. That will give you the opportunity to go to the free training and learn more about parenting from the peaceful place inside. So you can do what I do, even when you’re off track yourself. InshaAllah!
Assalamalaikum! See you next time, inshaAllah!